Monday, October 3, 2011

In search of my Flugobinder idea!

The other day, I was thinking of some of the people who inspired me in my life and helped me take some critical decisions, and one person and a certain incident popped into my mind.

It was high school days and I was living in my grand parents house at that time. For those who know the place and the house where I lived, also know that, the house in reference was actually this rambling mansion with several guest bedrooms in the middle of a bustling city. Being a part of a super large family, and living in this strategically located house, we always had uncles, aunts, cousins etc dropping in there for a pit stop, from out of town.

One day, as I came back from school, in popped this cool dude of an uncle into the house; I had rarely met him as he did not live in the same city, but I had heard about him. He was tall, lanky, brooding and bearded (I wont name him for several reasons). One look at him and I thought he was the coolest guy on earth, his beard gave him the look of a 'Rockstar' and his faded blue jeans screamed out “rebel” in every way. It must be noted, that I lived in a house where my granny is a PhD in Chemistry, My granddad was a prominent civil lawyer in the city and it was difficult to find an aunt or uncle with a non-nerdy look and high on the coolness quotient.

I watched him in awe while he was tinkering with the VCR (yeah, remember those funny looking, video cassette tape players of yesteryears).He noticed me looking at him and asked me, “do you have a video rental shop nearby”. Quick to please him, I said yes we do, I know the shop and could take him there (all in a single breath). He looked at me and nodded, “ok let’s go then”. I was walking with him to the video rental shop when he quizzed me on my knowledge of movies and other stuff. I sadly did not know any of the movies he was talking about, but I made a mental note of every one of the movies he referred to.

We reached the shop and he picked up a movie called “Cocktail (A Tom Cruise, 1988 Movie)”. He told me that it was a nice movie and that he had watched it several times and could do with a rerun of it; I had never heard about it, but made it a point to watch it when we get home. We came back and I suddenly remembered that I had after school tuition classes and rushed ahead for them forgetting all about the movie.

I never thought about watching that movie till several years later, when I had got into college and then as fate would have it, I chanced upon “Cocktail’ again. The only reason I watched the movie was because of this memory of that incident with my uncle. I watched it once, watched it again, and again and again, idolizing Tom Cruise’s character of a small town guy who goes to New York to do his MBA, learns business skills and gets a mentor in the big city in his part time job, starts off as an entrepreneur goes through highs and lows and finally makes it big in life.

Apart from some super slick one liners; one thing that profoundly remained in my mind from the movie was the following scene. Tom Cruise (Brian the hero) sits with his girlfriend and frets over not being able to make it big in life. He looks at the glass he’s holding and stares at that paper umbrella on the juice drink he's holding and says” you know somewhere in the world, there’s a guy who makes these paper umbrellas that you stick on these juice glasses, and he’s probably a millionaire by now making them”. He puts his feet up on the coffee table and looks at his shoes and says “You know, there’s probably also a Flugobinder millionaire somewhere in this world.”. She looks at him and asks “what’s a Flugobinder??”He points to his shoes and tells her “ See these shoes of mine, See those laces, see those plastic little things at the end of the lace, I don’t know what you call them but let's call them Flugobinders for the heck of it. There’s some guy somewhere in the world, who wakes up in the morning, kisses his wife goodbye and goes to a factory where he makes Flugobinders for shoes, sells it and makes millions. We sit here and rack our brains to try and make our mark in the world, and there’s some guy who corners the Flugobinder market in the world. There are opportunities all around us, we just need to open our eyes and see them.” End of Scene.

It taught me a valuable lesson, and to this day I believe there are opportunities everywhere around us, a lot of us miss them as we’re focused on the easy mediocrity of life and are afraid to break stereotypes ; it takes a dreamer with passion to see and embrace the hidden opportunities around us.

Today, as I think about the opportunities that I grabbed in my life and those that I missed, I think its about time I said “thank you “ to the person who unknowingly helped me dream and search for flugobinders in life!  :)

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Comedies of life!

I sometimes feel, Murphy wrote the law “if things can go wrong, they will” based on my life. Wherever Murphy is, he’d probably nod an “amen” if he hears my life story. In professional life or personal life, I have had this unique quirk of fate that, before any major surge of joy, I need to have a moment of absolute, utter and complete panic.

Like earlier this week, I was in this certain city, expected to go for one of the biggest meetings of the year. I arrive overnight, get a wake up call sufficiently early from the hotel reception, take a shower, breakfast, and then get ready for the meeting and…

Panic Attack 1: I pull my shirt from the hanger and while removing the collar button, the button breaks off. Now how the heck am I supposed to wear a Tie without buttoning up my collar!!! I pull up the sewing needle and thread from the hotel bathroom closet, poke my fingers 15 times, curse my luck 25 times and we finally have the collar button where its supposed to be..sewed up in red thread on a pristine white shirt…oh, what the heck!

Panic Attack 2: I put on my trousers and ramble up to my suit bag, search in one of the pockets for the belt, and voila I’ve forgotten it. Its 3000 miles away at home!!!! I mean, in all my bloody years of doing this job, I have never gone for a meeting without a suit trouser minus the belt.. Here I was staring at my half naked self in the mirror at a hotel room at 8 am in the morning, with my shirt on, tie in place and holding my pants in my hand! Ok, call the bell boy, get me a belt from the hotel shop, he brings 3 belts after 15 minutes, one of them a snake skin belt, another one a white leather belt and the third one looked like a cotton rope. We’re hyper-ventilating. I decide to just go for the meeting minus the belt.

If you think this is a random event in my life. Take another example, The year was 2005 and I was in Bahrain trying to close the biggest deal that I had ever closed in my life. One of the largest banks in that country was about to buy a software which it planned to roll out to 8 countries. I was presenting to an audience of over 25+ people. I had arrived along with the CEO of the company and had spent 2 weeks preparing for this meeting.

Everything had surprisingly gone well, pants in place, shirt in place, laptop is working fine, software is working fine, windows hasn’t crashed..And then I start my presentation. People who know me well professionally, know that when I present something, I can be quite thirsty and drink water often. I’m facing the audience and my boss who knew this habit of mine, quietly walked up from the back and kept a glass of water near my laptop. Like a ballet dancer, I do a pirouette and..CLUNK! THUD! CRASH! disaster..the glass of ice cold water tips on my laptop keypad. Keypad is floating in water..panic panic panic…the Bank IT guys rushes in…the audience and me watch in horror at the mess…we rush the laptop to the wash room, keep it under a hand drying fan, no good..laptop dies…The audience is surprisingly sympathetic..(in fact they took some special liking for us after that disaster, maybe we just seemed more human) ..we agree to postpone the session, but guess what finally emerges from this one...a month later ..I bag the deal!

God must be sitting and watching a sitcom comedy with my life, but he sure seems to be a sucker for happy endings, for he always ensures that every time I have a panic attack like that, I end up going and having a meeting of my life…

Well I guess, that's why they say "a hard beginning makes a good ending"

Happy Endings to y'all...

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Stand by me ..forever!

Some songs are just so magical that how many ever times you hear it, you can never tire of them. I happened to read somewhere that, those who wish to sing a song always find one. The song from Ra.one “Dildara-Stand by me” is like one of those songs, a song which I always wish I had sung.

I must also admit, though Stand by me" is like this super duper chartbuster of all times, the first time I ever heard it was when a certain RJ I know and some others in the station (City 101.6 UAE), remixed that song and made a theme song out of it, and then I happened to hear it last week as “Dildara-stand by me” in Ra.one

The song was so melodic, that I just had to dig up more info on the song. Apparently the original of the song “Stand by me” was sung by Ben E King in the 60s, and it turns out it is one of the most remixed and re-sung songs in the world with over 400 versions of it available. Everyone from John Lennon, Jim Hendrix, Elton John, Seal to Alvin and the Chipmunks have a version of it. Am wondering why Bollywood took so long to remix this song, but I must admit, what a marvelous job by Vishal-Shekhar.

The lyrics of the original are just timeless.The original version sung by Ben E King is still the best version of this song, sung with one of those  "chick a chik" thingy instrument (can someone tell me what you call that instrument) and a guitar in the background. Perfect song for one of those moments, when you're sitting somewhere quietly at night, looking into infinity and watching the magic of the universe unfolding in front of you...


When the night has come, and the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we will see
No, I won't be afraid, oh, I won't be afraid
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

So darlin', darlin' stand by me
Oh stand by me
Oh stand, stand by me, stand by me


If the sky that we look upon should tumble and fall
Or the mountain should crumble to the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry, no, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darlin', darlin' stand by me
Oh stand by me
Whoa stand now, stand by me, stand by me


enjoyyyyy...

Monday, September 12, 2011

The Kerala Trip Trilogy - Part I - Cousins & more!

This trip to India had a lot of firsts in it, but the most significant one was that, for the first time in a decade the whole Kainikkara Cousins gang was present in full attendance in one place. My initial thoughts were that it would be difficult to break the ice and start conversations; but it was surprising to note that even after a decade, we could pick up on conversations like we had them unfinished yesterday. I thought it would be a good idea to leave some feedback on my cousins on the blog (as a note to Adi, for future references), so here goes:
(Note: The description order is only alphabetical and not necessarily age wise)

Arun : The second in line in the family cousins generation tree, he is about (I think) 3 years younger to me. The first thing you notice about Arun is his eyes, You cant miss them. They look like he was on a steady diet of “Somras” mixed with “Cerelac” when he was a baby; I was always a bit surprised when he chose to work in Kerala, but Mr Droopy eyes cousin’s little one (Agastya) and Soumya’s luck, managed get his Dad a career shift into Chennai. Here’s wishing you lots of luck.

Ani (Pramod) : Thankfully Ani is a good 5 years younger to me;. Top Engg college pass out, Top B school pass out, not a geek, plays the guitar, good looking…Fortunately for me I was never bench marked with him in my wonder years, else I would have been in a mental asylum by now. Ani and I spoke quite a bit, but what will remain in memory from this trip was the smile in his twinkling eyes, when he sang the song “Papa kehte hain…” (he sang it twice) and both times when he sang the lines “koi engineer ka kaam karega, business me koi apna naam karega…” I can bet he has ambitions and dreams beyond compare. Godspeed!

Kuttan (Prasanth): The man of the moment, the last time I met him he was still in school. I hardly remember anything significant of Kuttan from a decade back, except that he’s a good tabla player. Deloitte, Mumbai and a US project have surely made him mature. To the barrel chested, Hummer shaped cousin of mine, I wish him lots of luck in his married life.

Varun : I don’t have any major memories of Varun from a decade back either, why? Because I think in the 10 years that I knew him back then, he would have spoken about 10 sentences maximum to me. Varun never spoke much back then, he was this silent, brooding , living in another planet guy, but the married Varun seems to have changed quite a bit (Thanks to Deepti also I guess, she compensates for all his above traits). His passion for photography of bugs and insects was well known folklore, so am not quite looking forward to the pics he took during the wedding.. I mean, his 24x zoomed shot would probably be capturing Kuttan’s nose hair, instead of the marriage ceremony. Just kidding, wishing him loads of luck too.

Kannan (Gautham) : The memory of him a decade back was of this anemic fair skinned geek guy with soda glasses to match, but when I met him in Dubai a few years back, he had morphed himself into a good looking dude. Marriage hadn’t changed his proportions; that I figure has to do with the kitchen experiments going on between Swetha and him, as typically, in my humble experience, for about 3-6 months after marriage, most meals cooked would go into the garbage bin (at least that was the situation in our case). Professionally, he seems to be juggling quite a few interests, hopefully I’d be seeing more of him in the middle east region; which would indirectly mean he's printing $$$$ too . Good luck Kannan!

Mol (Gayathri) : The school girl in pig tails had obviously blossomed into an elegant lady with poise and grace. Over the years, I had kept hearing about her achievements in dance and academics through others, though she was never on my social network (baby sisters are never on social networks with big brothers, anup makes a mental note to send her a friend request as she's no longer the baby anymore). The most significant thing about her was that, She’s just gone ahead and proved “Matches are made in heaven”, I mean how else can you define, two people (nandu/ mol) separated by about 5000 miles geographically, falling in love with each other and deciding to take wedding vows. Just as long as they don’t name their kids, "Facebookan" and "Orkutti" :P in honor of their love affair, I don’t see why Prabha chitta, Pappa chittan, Manikuttan appan and Anil appan would have any problems in their marriage :P! Good luck Mol!

Vinay : He’s got one career path which can definitely make him money, No prizes for guessing –Stand up comedy! I saw a visibly embarrassed Kochappan, trying in vain to control Vinay’s Chalus, but he probably forgot he’s looking at the man in the mirror. Vinay’s “Order in Chaos” attitude clearly makes him my favorite cousin; its also probably got to do with the fact that I related with his attitude too. Thank you Vinay for introducing me to the Meluhans and the 3x3 algo solution (for the uninitiated the former is from a book he recommended I read and the latter is the algo to the rubik’s cube which I have been busy downloading/ learning). Good luck in your exams and honestly don’t worry about having a facebook account, it’s a gross waste of time at your age :) unless your name starts with “P” and ends with “D” or starts with “G” and ends with “M” or “I”


Ammini (Uma) : Adi’s “Amina Chechi” was Adi’s age when I last met her. One lasting memory of her (The last in the line of the cousin family tree, unless one of my appans/ chittas decide to pull of a surprise) would be on how she brilliantly she played the “Wordmole” game on my blackberry. Just goes on to show that “brains and smarts” runs in the family.

So why did I ramble so much on my cousins, lets just say every man sees in his relatives, especially his cousins, a series of grotesque caricatures of himself..makes sense?

...who else did I meet, the appans and chittas who refuse to age, the distantly/vaguely related muttashis and muttashans who came up and loudly announced (the ever embarrassing lines) "ninakku enne orma undo, ninakku randu vayasu ullapol, ende dressil muthram oyichathu okke" ..yeah right! All that and more in the second part "The Kerala Trip Trilogy - Part II - The Aunts and Uncles"

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

My Personal God...

On Saturday night, while sitting in a hotel room, I was surfing channels and was watching some program on BBC, which interrupted it with breaking news on the Norway bomb blast. It was a scary bit of news, but what compounded the same and got me thinking on how much Islam had got tagged as a terror religion. To watch one of the most moderate news channels in the world hinting that this could possibly be a terror attack linked to the Norway Cartoon publication and their presence in Afghanistan was just shocking. If I had heard it on Fox news I wouldn’t have been surprised, but hearing it on BBC was a bit disappointing.

It finally turned out that the guy who did this, or the groups behind this were really Christian Fundamentalists and not Islamic Jihadis. I remember reading the below story somewhere on the internet and searched it out as my answer to to the Jihadi, the Hindu Fundamentalist, the Christian Militant or the Buddhist terrorist who is reading my blog.

A child in the sixth grade in a Sunday School in New York City, with the encouragement of her teacher, wrote to Einstein on 19 January I936 asking him whether scientists pray, and if so what they pray for. Einstein replied as follows on 24 January 1936:

“I have tried to respond to your question as simply as I could. Here is my answer. Scientific research is based on the idea that everything that takes place is determined by laws of nature, and therefore this holds for the actions of people. For this reason, a research scientist will hardly be inclined to believe that events could be influenced by a prayer, i.e. by a wish addressed to a supernatural Being.


However, it must be admitted that our actual knowledge of these laws is only imperfect and fragmentary, so that, actually, the belief in the existence of basic all-embracing laws in Nature also rests on a sort of faith. All the same this faith has been largely justified so far by the success of scientific research. But, on the other hand, every one who is seriously involved in the pursuit of science becomes convinced that a spirit is manifest in the laws of the Universe — spirit vastly superior to that of man, and one in the face of which we with our modest powers must feel humble.”


I believe my personal religion is also work in progress. It matters very little to me, as to what religion I was born under, yet I consider myself as deeply religious. As I look in awe at the miracles of this universe, I am convinced of the existence of the greater power, I am however not convinced that it resides in an idol. I am convinced that anyone with compassion, empathy, kindness and love believes in the same God as I do. If he defines it as The Allah, Jesus or the Krishna, it matters little to me as I know that is the same as my personal God.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Because, you don't get to live life twice!

The movie “Zindagi na milegi Dobara” (literal translation to English: You don’t get to live your life twice) is a decent watch. Apart from the awesome Spanish Countryside as the setting, there are some subtle moments in the movie where all of us could relate with some of the characters. It’s a story of three friends going on a road trip through Spain, but the high points in the movie are the dialogues and the honesty in the movie script. To top it, you have Javed Akhtar weaving magic with his pen and making you introspect and wonder in awe at the little miracles in life.

There’s a point in the movie, where one of the characters (Imran) looks on into the setting sun, and a verse (Farhan Akhtar) echoing in the background, which truly moved me. Thought I should share it with all of you. And for those of you who don’t speak Hindi, I’ve also added my (weak) translation of the hindi verse. Read on and enjoy!

Toh Zinda ho tum
Dilon mein tum apni betabiyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum,
Nazar mein khwaabon ki bijliyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum,

Hawa ke jhonkon ke jaise aazad rehna seekho,
Tum ek dariya ke jaise, leharon mein behna seekho,
Har ek lamhe se tum milo khole apni baahein,
Har ek pal ek naya samaa dekhiye,

Jo apni aankhon mein hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum,
Dilon mein tum apni betabiyan leke chal rahe ho, Toh zinda ho tum.


(English Translation)


If your heart is restless and impatient, only then are you are truly alive
If your eyes shine with electric dreams, only then are you are truly alive

Learn to be free, like the soft currents of a wind,
Learn to swim, through the waves in the river of life,
Open your arms, and meet every moment of life,
Learn to see, the new dawn in every living moment.

If you eyes show a hunger to learn, only then are you are truly alive,
If your heart is restless and impatient, only then are you are truly alive....

Says quite a bit! Hu-h! :)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Voyages of life



Where were you when I needed you the most,
As I sat and watched the clouded skies come close,
Broken and hurt, suffering in pain
I sat there alone, watching the hurricane

Where were you when I needed your love,
The screams of my heart, watered a growing throb,
Lost in thought, lost in abstraction
I sat there alone, regretting my inaction.

Where were you when I needed your stroke
The rains were departing and the skies awoke,
The moment had arrived, with a journey to be done
I was but alone, smiling and heading into the scorching sun.